A Friend

I think I might have had it all figured out.

At the end of the day, it’s not about finding the prettiest one, because there will always be someone prettier down the line.

It’s not about finding the one that gives you that warm fuzzy romantic feeling inside, because romantic feelings tend to fade away after awhile.

I think it’s all about finding that special friend.

The one who can understand you best.

The one who knows what you’re about to say even before you say it.

The one who would somehow drop you a text at the very same moment you are thinking of her.

The one whom you could sit down with and talk to over a cup of coffee and never run out of things to say.

The one whom you feel you can tell everything and anything to, without having to tailor your sentences in a manner so that she can best understand you.

The one who seems to share that same rarefied frequency as you do.

The one who just might be the female version of you.

At the end of the day, what you really want to find is someone who can be that special friend, because true friendship never dies.

Physical attraction may wear off, romantic feelings may fade away, and infatuation is merely fleeting.

But if you settle down with someone who is a true friend in every sense of the word, then chances are you’re on to something really lasting.

Yours,
Mr Bells

How Different Would Things Have Been?

I’m a person who likes to think a lot.

I often like to wonder how differently my life would have turned out if I had been in a relationship(s) earlier on in my life.

Would I be a very different person today?

Would I still remain attached, or would I have gone through multiple breakups by now?

Would I have been married by now…with kids even?

Would I still have made the same new friends I’ve made in the past five to six years had I been attached long ago?

Would I have been as active in pursuing my passions and interests in the past five to six years?

Well, one thing’s for sure – I would never have made those few close female friends from SDN had I been attached.

That means I would never have known Miss Arts House, Miss Sweet, Miss Hands, Miss Niche and Miss Blue.

They say that what you don’t know won’t hurt you, which is very true.

I will never know how my life would have been had I not known these ladies, but what I do know is that I feel very blessed to have known them.

I’ve often heard that people who got involved in long-lasting relationships since Uni often did not get the opportunity to make many new friends due to the fact that they had to spend a lot of time on each other.

It could be because they simply couldn’t find the time to make new friends, or it could also be because they didn’t feel the emotional need to make new friends since they had each other’s company already.

Often both.

Of course, it works differently for every couple, but generally, I get the sense that being in a relationship (especially if both parties are the sticky kind) often means compromising on making new friends and even your personal pursuits as well.

I dare say that I have led a very enriching and meaningful life the past five to six years, especially since I have been able to very actively pursue a lot of my passions, and a lot of it could be attributable to the fact that I’ve been single and thus have had plenty of personal time to devote to my passions.

I often wonder if I would have been as active in my pursuits had I been attached long ago.

Which then leads me to a rather intimidating thought – how will my life change if I get attached?

Will I have to compromise on a lot of my personal time?

Would it drastically reduce the time I have to spend on my passions?

Am I emotionally and mentally prepared to put in the required time and effort in maintaining a relationship, at the expense of my personal time?

I am a person who values personal time and space a lot, so the prospect of entering into a committed relationship does seem a bit daunting in this respect.

We’ll see how it goes.

Yours,
Mr Bells

This Wasn’t Supposed To Happen…Again

(You might want to refer to the first post “This Wasn’t Supposed To Happen” for background info first.)

I thought of many ways to begin this post.

And nope, this sequel to the original post was NOT supposed to have taken place.

Basically I’m a bit conflicted right now and I have no other way to express my current state of emotions than to post them on this blog.

It concerns Miss Hands.

I know some of you might be immediately thinking “Uh-oh!”.

Sure, blame me all you want.

I’m cool with that, cos I think I partly deserve it.

But as my title says, this wasn’t supposed to happen and I definitely did not intend for this to happen.

Last night I met up for dinner with Miss Hands, because it was necessary for us to do so for reasons which I shan’t elaborate.

Basically, what I mean is that it wasn’t so much of a “Hey, how have you been? Shall we catch up over dinner this week?” kind of thing, but because we needed to settle some small matter that required us to physically meet up with each other.

But I cannot deny that there was also the element of catching up and just keeping the friendship alive.

We hadn’t met up in almost two months, and neither had I been contacting her very much the past two months.

If you must ask, a very big reason was because I met a certain Miss Blue sometime after our last meeting, and well…you know the rest.

But my status with Miss Hands has always been gnawing at me because on the one hand, I’m fairly certain that I don’t see her as a future life partner, but on the other hand, I have always viewed her as an attractive and amazing girl who has always been nothing short of fantastic towards me since the day I first went out with her.

I really do not know what her current stance towards me is at this point in time, but I can sense that she has probably noticed my decreased communication with her the past two months (duh!), and I can also sense that she is slowly starting to cool off towards me in her replies nowadays.

I mean, she is still very respectful and positive and all that, but I just have this slight sixth sense that she is holding back a bit these days, and I cannot fault her for that in the least bit.

After all, nobody wants to put themselves out there and get hurt in the process.

It was supposed to be a simple dinner – just meet up, chat a bit, stay platonic and non-committal, settle that little admin matter, and off I go.

But things are never as easy as you hope they’d be.

Sometimes things don’t always go according to plan.

The problem is the same problem that happened the last time – things went a bit too well.

I won’t say we are the most compatible two people in the world (I definitely share a much higher frequency with Miss Blue), but I will say that I find Miss Hands very attractive, and that I can sense a certain level of romantic tension whenever we meet up.

Maybe it’s just my imagination.

Maybe I’m thinking too highly of myself.

Maybe she doesn’t see me in that light at all.

I don’t know.

What Miss Hands needs is someone who is able to listen to her.

That much I’ve figured out.

She’s been through stuff in her life, and needs someone who is willing to sit down with her and truly listen to her and understand her.

And I’ve been willing to do that, and I dare say that I have been doing that pretty well.

I’m not sure if there are many other good listeners in her life, but I’m pretty sure I am one.

Of course, I struggle a bit nowadays to remember all that I used to remember about Miss Hands, partly because we’ve not met up in a pretty long time and also because I had to free up a lot of gigabytes of hard disk space for Miss Blue.

But thankfully, my memory has served me well and I still managed to remember a whole lot about Miss Hands. (Remembering stuff about people has always been my specialty.)

I think things are fairly straightforward in the sense that I know that I won’t want to be in a relationship with Miss Hands – and that my heart is with Miss Blue – but the tricky part is that I like Miss Hands more than just a friend, and I hope to have a great friendship with her short of being a lover.

It’s that murky zone which I always happen to find myself stuck in with a number of ladies – that “I want to be more than friends but less than lovers with you” zone.

It’s bad, I know.

Am I being unfair to her?

Probably.

Should I come clean with her?

Well, I really don’t want to spoil things the way they are now.

Besides, how can I be sure what she thinks of me?

Does Miss Hands suspect that I’m seeing someone else right now?

I have no idea, although I can never underestimate the power of a woman’s sixth sense.

But whatever it is, I have been careful not to give Miss Hands the impression that I am interested in being in a full-fledged romantic relationship with her.

There is this line from the movie Jerry Maguire where the football player tells Tom Cruise: “You gotta be fair to her. She loves you. If you don’t love her, you got to tell her.”

I dunno man.

Life seems to throw a new curveball every day.

Things have been going very well with Miss Blue.

This really wasn’t supposed to happen.

Yours,
Mr Bells

“Is He Seeing Other Girls Besides Me?”

I guess this question would probably enter your mind sooner or later whenever you’re currently seeing someone and things seem to be going pretty well.

And especially if you’re at all interested in him.

I mean, if you were not interested in him, it wouldn’t matter to you even if he’s seeing five other girls at the same time, would it?

The sad reality is that as people get older, time is of the essence and we want to fully explore all our options in the least amount of time.

To use the popular phrase – ain’t nobody got time fo’ that!

Yes, as people get older there is hardly any time to waste, and if you have to weigh multiple options at one go, you weigh multiple options at one go.

It’s not like in your schooling days where you can take your time to get in and out of one relationship after another.

Please note that I’m not saying it’s okay to be involved in multiple relationships at the same time.

I mean “seeing other people” as in just casual dating and going out and hanging out and all that.

Basically just exploring if both of you could potentially be a good fit.

I personally think there is nothing wrong with seeing multiple people, as long as you don’t give anyone a false impression or you don’t commit to anyone nor make them commit to you.

I recognise that there is a fine line to be drawn here.

Look, I have been seeing quite a number of girls the past few years, often at the same time, but to me they were mostly just friends and I was careful not to lead anyone on.

So, back to the main question: Is he seeing other girls besides me?

I don’t know if it is safe to conclude that there is a higher chance of a guy seeing multiple girls than a girl seeing multiple guys.

I’ve personally had experience with girls who were seeing other guys while seeing me as well, so I think we cannot say for sure which gender has a higher propensity to see multiple people.

Obviously I could name a few tell-tale signs that suggest that he MIGHT be seeing other girls as well, but then again, some people are very good at hiding their tracks and sometimes it’s almost impossible to tell.

Here are some tell-tale signs I can think of:

• He isn’t fully transparent with you, especially about his daily and weekly schedule. Perhaps there are some evenings where he is busy, but he seems reluctant to tell you what he is up to that evening.
• He seems to have a problem keeping up with or remembering all the things you’ve told him before.
• He tends to ask questions that start with these words: “Were you the one who told me…?”
• He doesn’t seem to be always available, and may only allocate a fixed time for you every week or every other week.
• He can go for long stretches without contacting you.

I guess these are the main signs I can think of.

Of course, exhibiting the above signs does not mean that he is DEFINITELY seeing other people, but if he exhibits the above signs, there could be a higher chance that he is.

As I said, I don’t think there is anything ethically wrong with seeing multiple people at the same time.

However, I just want to make this point: If a guy is dead serious about you, he wouldn’t be interested to see other girls in the first place.

The fact that he is still seeing other people just means that he is either not completely sold on you yet, or that he still wants to weigh his other options in case something better comes along.

Often both.

Yours,
Mr Bells

Is There A Window Period To Close The Deal?

I’ve always wondered if there is such a thing as a “window period” to close a deal with a lady.

Obviously I’m thinking in terms of my current situation with Miss Blue right now.

Ladies, do you keep some sort of countdown timer whereby you will give a guy xx amount of time to pop the question (say not more than 3 months or maybe 10 dates), failing which you will just give up on him and move on?

Cos I’ve read stories of girls assuming the guy is not interested in them after he’s gone so many months without attempting to close the deal with them.

Perhaps he is genuinely interested in her, but such a long period of indecisiveness made her assume that he just wasn’t interested.

Or maybe she knew that he was interested, but she was put off by his indecision or lack of courage.

Or maybe she wasn’t willing to wait it out indefinitely and had to move on with her life.

So I really don’t know.

Obviously things are going pretty well right now with Miss Blue, so I’m thinking ahead.

Then there is also the follow-up question(s): Is it always necessary to formally pop the question? Is it a must to formalise the relationship? Or can two people assume that they are in an official relationship after dating each other consistently for a number of months?

These are some of the things that are going on in my mind these few days.

Of course, there are other niggling issues as well, but these are basically the main ones.

I dunno man.

We’ll have to see how it goes.

Yours,
Mr Bells

“Report Card For Dates”

There is an interesting article on page 4 of today’s Sunday Life! entitled “Report Card For Dates”.

It talks about how local matchmaking agencies are offering post-mortems to help clients learn why a matchmade date did not work out, and help increase the chances of their dating success in the future.

Some matchmaking agencies charge up to $100 for a single feedback session, while other agencies have already factored in the cost of this feedback session into the price of the matchmade date.

So basically, what happens is that after the matchmade date is over, the matchmaking agency will ask your date what she thought of you, what she liked about you, what she thought you could improve on, and whether she would be interested to go out on a subsequent date with you.

Then the matchmaking agency will give you your “report card”, so to speak.

I’ve been through this before during my time with Champagne JSG.

I mentioned before that I had signed up for a 6-date package with them a few years back, and for some of the dates, they did attempt to conduct some form of post-mortem with me.

These post-date feedback sessions were not an additional fee, and they were all part of the entire lump sum I paid for the 6-date package right at the start.

From my understanding, I believe they were supposed to do a post-date feedback session with me after each date, but I don’t recall it being carried out for every single of the 6 dates.

It might have been, but I really can’t remember now.

But anyway, I wasn’t that interested in any of the 6 ladies whom I was matchmade with, so it didn’t really matter to me whether the post-date feedback sessions were carried out or not.

Firstly, I must say one thing – being given a “post-date report card” can be a very humbling experience.

I mean, this is the time when you receive real and extremely honest feedback on how you fared on your first date with her.

All your dating flaws and weaknesses will be completely revealed.

But don’t take it too personally.

Treat it as feedback to help you improve yourself to become a better dater.

Perhaps you talked too much about yourself.

Perhaps you forgot to hold the door open for her and it slammed in her face.

Perhaps you were not dressed to her expectations.

Perhaps you were late.

Perhaps you had bad breath.

Perhaps your choice of language was not appropriate for her.

Perhaps you didn’t offer to pay for her meal.

Perhaps you were checking your phone one too many times.

Perhaps you had been too direct in asking her how old she was.

Honestly, when I think back, I can’t really remember much except for one particular feedback from Date No. 1 of my 6-date package: It was that I had failed to remember to ask her for her contact number.

Oops!!!

(Hey, this was a few years back and I was relatively inexperienced back then okay!)

I was so uninterested that I had completely forgotten to even ask her for her contact number, and that was the feedback which she gave the JSG consultant.

From then onwards, I always made it a point to ask for the digits of the rest of the 5 dates regardless of whether I was interested in them or not, haha.

Oh yes, and another very common feedback that I always got from the ladies was that I was too quiet and didn’t talk much.

(Hasn’t anyone heard of the strong, silent type??)

On my side, I do recall being asked a few times by my consultant what I thought of the ladies whom I had just been out on a date with.

I don’t remember saying much, and I had always chosen to be as ambiguous and as politically correct as possible.

My favourite line was “Oh well, no particular reason. I guess the chemistry just wasn’t there. Nope, I don’t think I will be keen to meet up with her on subsequent dates.”

And I left it at that.

No point hurting anyone’s feelings, cos ladies tend to take feedback more personally than guys.

In short, are post-date report cards good?

Definitely.

There is no better way to get an objective evaluation of how good a date you are.

However, as I said, it can be an extremely humbling experience so you must never take the criticism too personally.

Nobody is perfect.

We all learn as we go along.

Yours,
Mr Bells

27 Truths of Dating and Love

Someone asked me if I could list down all the dating truths I could think of.

Sure, here’s 27 for you…

1) Always go for character rather than looks. Looks fade, character doesn’t. A relationship based solely on physical attraction is always going to be shaky. (You might not think much of this now, but 10 to 20 years down the road, you might finally appreciate the validity of this statement.)

2) The biggest red flag in any relationship is inconsistency.

3) If you want to know what she’s really like, observe the way she treats the waiter. If you want to know what he’s really like, observe the way he drives.

4) She is never going to be that perfect, gorgeous woman you thought she was when you first met her. That was just a fantasy. The real her is always going to be different.

5) If she is slow in replying to your texts and emails, chances are she is not that into you.

6) You may not always end up with the best person. There may be one or two who may have gotten away from you in the past. But make sure the one you settle down with in the end is someone whom you are willing to truly love forever.

7) If you are genuinely interested in her, you will want to meet up with her often and you will stop thinking about other women.

8) Guys will always be afraid of commitment.

9) Never try to come on too fast to a woman. Always give her time to think.

10) Nothing impresses a woman more than being able to remember the little things she said.

11) When it’s the right one, everything just feels right.

12) Guys will always go for looks. Never trust a guy who says that looks do not matter to him at all.

13) Sometimes all a girl wants is a guy who is willing to be a very good listener.

14) Expectations must always be managed before attending an SDN dating event. To put it bluntly, there must be a reason why people would be willing to fork out hard-earned money for the opportunity to meet potential dating prospects. If we could all manage this on our own elsewhere, we wouldn’t have had to come to SDN.

15) If a guy is truly into you, he wouldn’t wait more than three months to close the deal with you.

16) Yes, guys do keep girls in the friendzone as well. Don’t think that it’s just girls who keep guys in the friendzone.

17) If a girl has the guts to take the trouble to ask you out on a date, you can be sure that she is seriously interested in you.

18) There is no such thing as “The One”. There are 7 billion people in this world. It is not possible that only 1 out of 7 billion people on this earth was made specially for you. If it never worked out with that person, just learn to move on.

19) There is no better way to forget about a person from the past than to meet a new person from the present.

20) If someone is truly interested in you, he or she will always make time to go out with you, even if he or she may not be available on that particular day.

21) Never miss the opportunity to tell someone that you love him or her. You will regret not telling him or her more than you will regret saying it out and getting rejected. There is nothing more painful in life than missed opportunities.

22) If you don’t even believe in yourself, don’t expect anyone to.

23) Single doesn’t mean unattractive, attached doesn’t mean attractive.

24) Nobody can help you to move on from that someone. It’s all in your mind. You just have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and tell yourself that there will always be someone else out there. There is no perfect person in this world. As much as you thought she was perfect, it was just a fantasy construct in your mind. Sometimes people just want the things they can’t have.

25) You can’t make everyone fall in love with you no matter who you are. If he or she isn’t interested in you, don’t take it personally and just move on. Don’t ever attempt to figure out why it was so. It is nobody’s fault.

26) When you first get to know someone after a first date, always make it a point to write down what you like about him or her. This is so that in future you can always look back on this list and remind yourself why you were so enamoured by him or her in the first place.

27) A beautiful life is what you make of it. If you choose to make your life beautiful, so it will be.

Yours,
Mr Bells

Is University The Best Time To Find A Life Partner?

There was this article in the news recently which I thought was rather interesting:

“Finding a spouse ranks lowly for undergrads”

It reported that a survey found that 60% of 400 undergrads polled from our four local universities – NTU, NUS, SMU and SIM – are single.

(I believe in this instance they mean “single” as in “not attached”.)

And 70% of these single undergrads have no plans to actively pursue a relationship.

Which means that 42% of local undergrads are both single AND not looking to be in a relationship.

Figure so high meh?

Anyway, that’s not my main point.

My main point today is to pose the question: Is university the best and most ideal time to find yourself a potential life partner?

Well, in my case I obviously missed the boat.

I missed the boat by a looooong way off.

The notion of being in a relationship never seriously entered my mind when I was in uni.

I mean, of course I had the odd crush or two here and there…but to be very honest with you, I had no idea how to pursue girls and what being in a relationship was all about back then.

And neither was I mentally or emotionally ready then.

Everywhere I turned in uni, I saw people getting paired up left, right, centre.

I saw people who got together on just the second day of uni orientation camp, would you believe!

Hostel life was filled with stories of romantic rendezvous and the like.

Some of my close friends, who are married now, had met their spouses from uni.

Now that I think back, I feel that maybe university was indeed the most ideal time to find a potential life partner.

Firstly, university was a fertile ground to find a girlfriend.

Half the cohort (plus or minus, depending on which faculty you were in) is of the opposite gender, so you have a large pool to choose from.

Everyone is an adult, so they are considered mature enough to make decisions on their own and take matters into their own hands, and not have to always seek their parents’ permission in everything.

Also, most importantly – the fact that everyone is in the 19 to 24 age group probably means that the chances of finding someone who is single is much higher than if you were to wait till later on in life.

(The simple fact is that the older the population, the higher the chance that most of them are either attached or married already.)

Secondly, uni is not like the workplace where the first and foremost purpose for turning up at work is to, well…work.

Also, a lot of workplaces forbid colleagues being in a relationship, so that makes pairing up even more difficult.

Yes, uni is about studying, but there is also a lot of room for fun, recreation and social interaction.

Also, being constantly made to do projects with various project groups also allows you to easily get to know many new friends every semester.

A lot of workplaces are not large, and some workplaces have very few employees of the opposite gender who are both single and in the age range that you are looking for, so you can imagine the odds of finding a potential partner at work if you are working in a small firm.

Thirdly, most peoples’ social circles tend to shrink rather than expand as they get older, say from after uni onwards.

I know a lot of people whose life revolves mainly around work, home, some close friends, and not much else.

This is a far cry from the vibrant uni life that one can choose to engage in, especially if you are active in hall, faculty, and your ECA as well.

Of course, you can say that one can still choose to have a vibrant social life when working.

True, I’ll grant you that…but are you sure you’d be able to meet as many suitable single girls as compared to when in uni?

And also, it does take A LOT of effort and energy to pursue an active social life, especially if you have to work long and hard hours every day.

Fourthly, you could sometimes say that when people get together in uni, it is because they really like each other.

The reasons are more pure, in a sense.

I know this might sound quite controversial, but I think it’s true to some extent.

Many a times when people who are in a more advanced age group get together to settle down and get married, it could be because they are thinking about a) financial security, b) ability to conceive children, c) the fact that time is ticking away and they should just settle for someone even if he or she isn’t the best choice.

In other words, they think in extremely practical and pragmatic terms.

Love and attraction goes out the window, and the only thing that matters is if the other partner can provide one’s needs from a purely practical standpoint.

Whereas university love tends to be more based on friendship, chemistry, attraction and feeling.

You may say this is good, or you may say this is bad.

I’ll leave it to you to decide for yourself.

In conclusion, I feel that university is still the best window of opportunity to find a potential life partner.

Sometimes I get tickled when I meet university undergrad girls who turn up at speed dating events.

Your uni cannot find guys, such that you must come SDN and find meh??

Trust me, as you get older, it gets much harder to find potential partners.

Most people are either in a serious relationship or married already.

And that is why so many of us “older singles” go to SDN, because there may come a point in your life where you realise that it is unlikely that you will meet anyone new at work or in your regular social circle.

So, all you undergrads who are reading this – don’t say I didn’t warn you!

Go make hay while the sun shines.

Take it from someone who has missed the boat, but has lived to tell the tale.

Yours,
Mr Bells

I’ve Stopped Looking

Some of you might know that I was intensively attending speed dating events over a 3-month period from last November to this January.

I had probably attended around 12 speed dating events (by various agencies) in that 3-month span, which means it was an average of about one event per week.

Wow.

I can’t even imagine how I managed it, to be honest.

But the fact remains that I did.

But anyway, I used the recent CNY break to sit down and seriously take stock of things, and I’ve realised that I have completely lost all desire to attend SDN events already, ever since the CNY break.

I’ve gotten it completely out of my system.

I mean, it was a pretty decent run.

I got to know Miss Hands and also Miss Niche in that 3-month span – both great ladies.

But the main reason why I’ve decided to finally stop is, of course, that I had met Miss Blue somewhere at the 11th event, and things have been going really well, and as such I had stopped looking to get to know more ladies for the purpose of dating.

And now when I think about it, I guess this is another pretty clear sign that I’m really into Miss Blue.

Because after I got to know Miss Sweet, I was still attending SDN events.

After I got to know Miss Hands, I was still attending SDN events.

Knowing both Miss Sweet and Miss Hands – great as they were – did not cause me to completely stop wanting to attend dating events and possibly know more ladies.

So I guess we can safely add another lesson to the rulebook: When you think you’ve met the right one, you will stop wanting to look elsewhere.

A guy who still wants to attend dating events even after knowing a nice lady essentially still has not made up his mind about her yet.

Yours,
Mr Bells

It Just Feels Right

If the Law of Averages states that one out of every xx number of girls you meet could legitimately end up being the one, then I think I’ve probably been through my requisite xx number of girls by now.

Honestly, I do think that I’m due for some good fortune by now, after all that I’ve been through.

Yes, I’m a picky person, but even a picky person is due for some good fortune after so many unsuccessful tries.

Things have been going well with Miss Blue.

It’s been a bit more than a month since I first met her at a dating event.

Miss Arts House can tell you how excited I was after the event that day (cos Miss Arts House was at the event as well), and never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined that things would have progressed to this stage as of today.

Honestly, after that event that day, absolutely nothing was established and I had all my work cut out for me.

I knew it was going to be an absolute uphill task but I told myself that I was just going to give it my best shot.

And give it my best shot I did.

This is one of those rare moments in life where things turned out so much better and more smoothly than I could have ever dared to imagine.

Normally it never turns out like this when it comes to dating…at least for me.

Normally there would always be some roadblock or other at some point in time.

Sometimes when I think back to that day at the dating event, I just shake my head in amazement at how far things have come.

It’s almost like a dream.

It’s amazing.

I have to pinch myself to see if this is all really happening.

I like to sometimes think about how small little actions or decisions could sometimes have a profound impact on your life – if I hadn’t decided to sign up for that particular event on a whim, I would never have met Miss Blue.

I mean, of all the many events being conducted every week of every month in the year by all the various agencies, we both had to decide to pick that one particular event.

That’s life for you.

One thing about Miss Blue is that her responses are ultra quick.

And if you know anything about me by now, you’d know that I always love it when girls respond to emails or messages quickly, or at least promptly.

Miss Blue has never given me any cause for concern with regards to whether she is playing games with me or not.

Everything has always been clear and straightforward in that respect, and I appreciate her greatly for that.

Even though she is beautiful, intelligent, sociable, well-read, accomplished, well-travelled and personable, she doesn’t play games which I have encountered quite often with some others.

Miss Arts House tells me that this is one sign that she is quite into me, to which I always say “Well, let’s hope so”.

Miss Arts House has a very keen sixth sense when it comes to these things.

Based on all the feedback I’ve been giving her lately with regards to Miss Blue, Miss Arts House tells me she has a very good feeling about how things are going between us.

I dunno man, all I can say is that everything just feels right with Miss Blue.

I’ve been in countless situations where somehow things just didn’t feel right.

Sometimes deep inside me I just felt that we weren’t compatible.

Sometimes there was just something about her that didn’t sit well with me.

Sometimes I was interested, but she wasn’t.

Sometimes everything seemed perfect on paper, but the chemistry just wasn’t there.

There was always a something in all the many previous occasions that made things not work out, and that is why I have always remained single.

Sometimes I like to think that “falling in love” is just another way of saying that everything feels right, that everything seems to be falling perfectly into place.

It’s that feeling when all your advances are well-received, and when she also seems to know how to reciprocate and do all the right things at the right time.

It’s like two persons knowing all the moves and dancing in perfect tandem to the music.

If you were to ask me how Miss Blue is different from all the rest, I’d be hard pressed to give you a definite answer.

There have been others who were just as beautiful, who were just as personable, who were just as intelligent.

All I can say is that this time it just feels right.

Yours,
Mr Bells